Originally published in "Holistic Horse Magazine"

When taking lessons, there’s an unspoken rule that you should always listen to everything your trainer tells you to do, no matter what.

The horse world is filled with little inside phrases like, “Shut up and ride” or “I’m the trainer, that’s why.” or “You should have listened to your trainer in the first place.”

But what if you feel something going on within yourself (or your horse), and your trainer isn’t picking up on it?

It could be something as minor as preventing you from progressing that day or as major as avoiding an accident. Yet, your trainer is pushing you or brushing off how you’re feeling, or…

You’re just not feeling brave enough (or can’t find the right words) to express what that something is. What then?

The following words are said with great love and respect to all the hard working and incredibly gifted trainers out there, as I am...

If you're reading this, well done for having the desire to become the rider your horse can trust!

Here's a summary of what to expect: Thoughtful, tactful, and simple ways to show your horse how much you care, how much you want to be a kind and supportive dance partner, and most importantly, that you are someone that can be trustworthy, always.

Remember: Horses thrive with clarity and consistency of character. You've got this!

Now please read on... 

After interacting with horses for nearly (gulp) thirty-seven years now... (time is so weird)... I've discovered that if you keep these five main concepts at the top of your mind (and heart), your horse will be most impressed with you. 

At the very least, they will feel more relaxed in your presence. Who doesn't want to give that to their horse?

Alright alright alright... Here we go!

Five Ways to Impress Your Horse (Pony/Equine/truly any other being that you interact with)

1. Check in with yourself first.

If you're...

When you’re warming your horse up for a lesson, there’s a palatable shift that happens when your instructor arrives and begins watching you. 

Your senses are heightened, as you want to be sure you’re doing everything she’s taught you thus far.

You admire her. She's an incredible professional. More than likely, she’s probably forgotten more than you know in the few riding years you’ve been blessed to take consistent lessons. 

The last thing you want is to disappoint her.

Your lessons have a certain structure that you and your horse can depend on. 

There might be a few minutes of no stirrup work, a few minutes of staying in a two-point position, and then you work on some new element that you’re slightly nervous about, but put your complete trust in your instructor. 

The nerves usually come up when you see her adjusting the height of the jump two holes up. 

You notice you’re holding your breath, as soon as you...